
I was going to write on overcoming resistance, stepping out on to a limb. Which is what I have been doing lately.
But something else came up, something all too common. When patients ask us questions we have no idea how to answer, or make statements or choose options we entirely disagree with. “Doctor, I don’t want to accept what you are offering – I would like to go alternate”. “Doctor, how can I beat this (cancer)?” “What do you think of ‘potion x’ for my treatment?” And so on. I was speaking to a colleague who deals in cancer, who was patently at a loss to answer a patient who was just not on the same page – and because they are there, we feel obliged to offer something. They trap us in our own world, in our training, in our beliefs, our own sense that “we have to fix it”, and we can’t wiggle out of it.
My approach would be to open wide into the realm of possibilities. To investigate what would work for the patient, and then negotiate to have some input along the way. Ask questions. And we do have to be aware of all the various therapies out there – that’s the only way IMO we can make sense of anything. The alternative is to declare that you cannot offer anything other than that already offered, and suggest other physicians, which is never satisfactory. Another way would be to have some help – colleagues who have experience in alternative approaches, and who can work in partnership with you, perhaps even in joint consultations. A true integrative approach would be to have joint consultations, or alternative views, with a patient-centred approach. Some patients will say “tell me what to do”. Others want to be in control.
We should be able to deal with any approach, and not let what we believe to be the most important way, to get in the way. And sometimes a patient’s choice will be at complete odds with ours; how do we honour their choice, even if the outcome is a disaster? Are we prepared to walk with them, anyway, regardless.




